Important Stuff

Each One of Us

He computes, analyzes.
So intelligent, but has no confidence.

She toils and serves.
So capable, but doesn’t believe she really makes any difference.

She is beautiful, talented.
So phenomenal, but doesn’t trust herself.

She is artistic, and a symphonic joy.
So welcoming, but she shuts the world out.

She is bold, and kind.
So forceful, but she loves everyone but herself.

They won’t find their part in the symphony
until they believe
each one of us
is glorious.

My own worst enemy

I’ve been reading the most excellent book
(review coming soon)
It chronicles near-death
experiences of Mormon pioneers
and it has been life altering for me
as I have pondered
the after-life.
What will it be like for
me to meet my maker
and account for mortality?
I really really hope that
the good outweighs the bad.
As I recently talked with a friend
who has anorexia,
we discussed
how we all seem
to just transfer
one bad behavior to the next.
She started struggling with anorexia
when she was overcoming
a spending problem.
I can’t seem to be disciplined
enough to stay under budget
while also staying under calorie allotment.
And forget being happy and kind
and under budget and under calorie.
It’s going to take me a lifetime
to conquer all of the above
at the same time.
But this morning
while running
I had an epiphany.
It comes from

Mosiah 3:19

19 For the natural man is an enemy to God, and has been from the fall of Adam, and will be, forever and ever, unless he yields to the enticings of the Holy Spirit, and putteth off the natural man and becometh a saint through the atonement of Christ the Lord, and becometh as a child, submissive, meek, humble, patient, full of love, willing to submit to all things which the Lord seeth fit to inflict upon him, even as a child doth submit to his father.

Like a ton of bricks
it hit me all at once.
My mortal body
is my own worst enemy.
My whole purpose 
on this earth
is to show that my spirit
can be in charge
of my body.
My body is dead
without my spirit.
My spirit (me) is what makes 
me (my body) do or not do anything.
When I struggle with stuff
it’s not my spirit,
it’s the flesh.
The flesh is naughty.
The spirit is perfect.
They are always at odds
with one another.
“Hey body Alice
quit eating so much.”
“Shut up spirit Alice,
you’re so goody-goody.
We’re gonna
eat drink and be merry til we die.”
“Bad idea body Alice,
your spirit
wants to have its glorified form
and it knows a whole lot
more than you do.
I’m smarter.
I’m better
and my whole goal 
is to make you perfect.
I’m in charge
so put that doughnut down.
The flesh is weak,
the spirit is strong.
This may seem so simple
to you all,
but it is an epic
that I aim
to use
from now on
when trying to conquer
my transfer of
bad behaviors.
When my flesh is weak
I plan to tap into
that strong strong strong
and I plan to utilize
the God of all spirits
to help me 
whip that body into shape
more often.

Book Review – Daring Greatly

This is a paid for review as part of BlogHer BookClub.
Getting paid to read a book that I would have been 
snatching off the shelf anyhow is a very proud moment for me.

Do you want to change the world?
Do you want to have more powerful interpersonal relationships?
Do you want to explore into your own soul 
to make sense of your life?
Do you want to live whole-hearted?
Do you want to rid yourself from shame?
Do you want to understand men and women better?
Do you want to give your heart a hug?

I thought I would do something different this time and give you a list of questions for this book review. This book is so jam-packed with the “hard stuff” that I don’t even want to dare pretend that I get it all. I will be reading it repeatedly until I have absorbed and memorized every nugget of wisdom. I wish every other person on the planet would do the same. It would seriously bring world peace and most certainly would give everyone inner peace. I’m not kidding, It’s that powerful.
I was proud to be a part of this book campaign. I was thrilled. I mean I jumped up and down when I got the e-mail confirmation and cooked a fancy dinner for my family when it arrived in the mail. I have been pouring over its pages and sharing parts with my hubby every chance I get. I have compromised my facebook relationships with the overabundance of quotes from this book. I just can’t stop. It’s too totally amazing not to share. YOU HAVE TO READ THIS BOOK. If you don’t want to buy your own copy, borrow mine. I can’t share it though for at least another month until I have it memorized.

I had a powerful experience at work last night, using the principles learned in this book. I was substitute teaching a class at the therapeutic boarding school where I work. I gave the kids a reward for every half an hour of hard work. We listened to a song of their choice (with my approval). One boy chose a powerfully emotional song about a girl who wanted to be with her dying boyfriend forever. I loved it. Another boy in the class didn’t. He started to shame the song choice kid. I stopped him and talked with the whole class about “shaming” and talked with them about giving people space to be who they are, even if they are wrong or different. I then turned to the shamer, and told him how much I loved him and admired him and that I would hope other people would give him space to love what he loved. He got teary-eyed. He turned to the other kid and said, “Dude, I am so sorry, I don’t like that song, but it’s cool if you do.”

World peace, people. World peace.
A huge thanks to marriage counselor friend John Morgan who turned me on to Brene Brown just months ago. He shared with me her talks from Ted. I was hooked. Brene is a researcher and has a PHD and LMSW. Her life’s work is shame and vulnerability. Here are her videos. Watch them both. Come back if you have to. They will make you understand why you need to read this book. Even if you aren’t into that psychological mumbo-jumbo, you need to be.