I had a friend reach out to me the other day for weight-loss advice. She knows I have been trying to do sugar-free and she wants to join me as her doctor told her to go off white flour and sugar. Over the course of the conversation she mentioned that she wants to lose weight because she is sick of feeling like crap about herself.
This is what I told her:
I am proud of you. The BEST thing for me in my weight loss journey has been for me to LOVE myself first. I haven’t lost weight as a way to learn to love myself, I learned to love and respect myself and then the weight has come off naturally. You are such a beautiful person and you deserve to love you!
She responded affirmatively and told me she had never thought of weight-loss in that way.
With this post, I just want to be one right voice in a million wrong ones that stands up for loving ourselves and not aiming to look like supermodels.
When I see overweight people I give them the benefit of the doubt. Maybe they have terrible medical problems that keeps them from optimal health or maybe they have never been taught anything better. Maybe they have emotional problems. There is one thing I know about all of them in today’s society. If they are overweight, they are more than likely down on themselves about it. Even if it isn’t their fault, they feel profoundly flawed. What does our society do? They make them feel broken and incapable. As a society we aren’t really good at loving each other or ourselves.
We need a louder message of self-love. If we really want to change ourselves, we need love and education. First, though, we need love because no one is going to want education until they can love themselves enough to stop the self abuse. Even if they can find the willpower to lose the excess weight without self-love they will just use their physique as another crutch at fake self acceptance. I know a lot of really sick people who look perfect physically.
I felt so happy to help this friend as I’ve been on the side of being helped and it was nice to see the assistance to full circle. I still have a long way to go in my optimal health but I feel so good because I know I love me and I am taking care of me to the best of my ability.
Like I said to my friend, “Even though the doctor’s BMI chart says I need to lose forty more pounds, I don’t need to lose any more weight to feel happy with my health. When I do lose weight it’s just a positive grade on my report card.” Whenever I lose weight it just affirms what I already knew, “Good for me! I am eating right and exercising correctly. My body, my mind, and my heart are in sync .”
Here is one of my favorite motivational YouTube videos about weight-loss,
it is a beautiful true message from a really talented and brave musician
who happens to agree with me about self-love and the power of God in overcoming weakness.