Book Review: Behind Every Good Man

Behind Every Good ManBehind Every Good Man by John Bytheway

My rating: 3 of 5 stars

Short and sweet book. Really, it will take you all of 20 minutes to read the whole thing.

What did I learn?
Besides the fact that I am not as good of a wife as I thought I was?

#1 And most important (which is really hard for wives to hear) You can’t change your husband.

#2 Love your husband. Just the way he is, and you might inspire him to be better.

#3 Be grateful that your husband puts up with you.

#4 Your husband is really a lot better than you give him credit for.

#5 Don’t criticize EVER. Unless he asks for it, and even then you have to deliver it in a way that seems complimentary.

#6 Men talk for information, women talk for interaction. Define your roles, needs, and communication styles and then remember them when interacting.

#7 Affirm affirm affirm and let him know you love following his lead. And make a big deal about everything that he does that you like and/or appreciate. Thank him specifically.

#8 Talk about your admiration for each other, especially in front of other people.

#9 Speak each others’ love languages.

#10 Treat a man as he is and he will remain as he is, treat him as he is the man you want him to become and he will become that man.

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  1. I read this book. I thought it was just okay. I think that he said some good stuff, but overall it just wasn't enough meat. I felt like he was writing something just to write it. I felt like he was out of his element. Anyhoo, Dr. Laura's The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands is similar, but I thought much better. You might like it.

  2. Sounds like a lot of great advice. I already knew there would be no changing him. It just took me awhile to learn that for myself.


    ps. Actually overtime he has changed… but they are changes he has made not that I could make him change.

  3. What a bunch of bull shit. You actually believe this shit? Stand up for yourself. You are a good wife. You should not have to cater to your husbands every whim. Have an opinion and have a voice.

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